In Genesis 3:16 God tells the woman that her “...desire will be for her husband.” The original Hebrew carries a weight to this word “for” that is not always present in the English. It could very well mean, “…your desire will be against your husband.” Against? Yes. Prior to this point in history, the woman was Adam’s helpmate, submitting to him for the sake of spreading God’s image throughout the world. Now, it is not so. Sin has come, and has radically impacted and reversed the roles of men and women.
Where men originally were leaders, they now follow Adam and shrink away from doing what they were made to do, leading. Where women originally were followers, they now follow Eve and move forward too much toward taking Adam’s role as her own. In both cases, it is sin to act outside of our natural roles. Men are too quick to hide, and not act like men. Rather than encouraging men to do what they were made to do, women too quickly take over the reigns, and not act like women.
Don’t hear me as a woman-hater or a man lover, but as Biblical. There are massive truths that manhood portrays about God, like His justice, and His faithfulness to always show up in time of need. Also, there are massive truths that womanhood portrays about God, like His mercy, grace, love, and tenderness. Manhood cannot show certain things about God that womanhood gloriously does, and visa-versa. Larry Crabb has seen this as well and made a comment I agree with, “There is something in Biblical manhood that needs to start moving and there is something in Biblical womanhood that needs to stop moving.”
So I ask you, are you not moving enough, or moving too much?